Saturday, June 27, 2009

Accident

So last week on June 20th I was driving home after a Lia Sophia party and I decided to get in the other lane, the right lane. Well as I was driving I noticed that the red mustang on my left hand side was starting to veer into my lane, so I started honking my horn and he swerved back. Then I start to pull a little further and he gets behind me at full speed and runs into my while I am continuosly honking my horn. He hits me, gets back into the left lane and speeds off...up onto the middle median of grass and trees! He misses about 4 or 5 trees and is driving sideways on the median, runs into a stop sign, goes down the median and up the next median! Misses another tree and swerves to the right where he hits a subaru that was parked on the side of the street, turns that car sideways, goes over the curb, misses a tree and hits an old Ford Tempo which is where his car finally stops.
On the right side of the street there is a greek festival going on, but luckily he stopped before going into it and he also missed any children or people that were on the street/sidewalk. I pull my car over into their parking lot and run out only to hear people yelling "give him room, give him room!" He was having a seizure! His air bags deployed and by the time his seizure had stopped he was unconscious. Luckily the fire department and ambulance were not far from where the accident occurred so he was taken away on a stretcher within less than 15 minutes of his crash.
It was so scary! At first I thought he was hitting me and than running, until I saw him go up that median at full speed; then I knew something was wrong. Thank God that he hit me instead of turning into the festival and that I was honking my horn so people were watching (not that they would have missed him going up the median), but it was so lucky that he missed all of the trees and that he didn't hit anyone. I haven't talked to his insurance company but I am hoping that he is okay and nothing serious happened to him. It was just so crazy to watch, I couldn't imagine having experienced that from his side.
My car is still drivable and I am fine. I had not serious injuries, I just had a small backache and I have a cracked bumper that his insurance will be paying for. Also, if I need a rental my insurance covers up to $30 a day. So I am fine I just couldn't believe what I had witnessed, what a crazy moment in time.

Thursday, June 4, 2009

Almost done....

As I had my internship interview today I realized how close to the end I really am. It has always felt like it was never going to happen. I have been in school for so long and doing so many things that it is hard to believe that in 6months I will be doing an internship and working on all these skills I have learned and in a year and a half (on my own time table and pace) I will be in the field and actually have a "career." How crazy is that?! It is so hard for me to believe that I am in denial and repressing all of the things that need to happen for this to be over. I am in denial that in less than a year I will need to take comps to graduate and take the NCE to become an LPC (licensed professional counselor). I just keep thinking that it isn't going to happen because it has been so long for it all to come together.

This fall is going to be very rough for me...I will be finishing my last two classes of my master program and starting my internship hours. I am going to try and internship at the place I interviewed this morning 5-10 hours a week, try to get placed with Children's Hospital for an internship and also try to work in the gay and lesbian population a few times to get that experience as well. I also want to try and do a workshop for Bette Ford which is four days plus attend conferences and talks and read to achieve my non-direct hours. I am going to do all this while working 40 hours a week, keeping a boyfriend, a crazy dog, studying for comps and the NCE and trying to make and keep friends (one of my new goals)???? I don't know how I will do it but I guess we will see....

I still have so many decisions to make and I still want to go on and achieve a doctorate but I can really be a counselor in a little over a year! It is all just so unbelievable. I have so many great opportunities at my fingertips right now, I can only hope that I do well and make the right decisions for me. I can't wait to see where this next year will take me!

Family

Last night after our dog training session we went over to Matt's parents for dinner. His mom, sister, Jose (sister's boyfriend), niece, nephews, brother and grandma were all there. We had tacos for dinner and I helped make the taco shells. At the end of our meal I began to help clean up the table and put away stuff and at one point I just stopped and really looked around and realized what I was apart of. Sure I am just a girlfriend but they make me feel like so much more. I really feel like I am apart of that family. I have Matt's nieces and nephews who just love me and I love them. They are so adorable and just at amazing ages and I love to be around them. His mother is so cute, she had a Lia Sophia party for me and was/is really trying to help me gain parties and she has all these great ideas...she is just so great and loving towards me. His sister calls me her sister and doesn't take offense when I say "no" or anything to her kids...it's like I am a sister and a family member. I just love being apart of it all. They are so close and loving and love to do things together, I just am amazed.
I am close really close with my Dad, my Uncle Jeff, my cousins and my grandma but unfortunately I am less close with my mother and my uncle Danny and our family as a whole is not as close as I would hope for sometimes. I love each individual relationship in its own.

I am so grateful for the closeness I have gained with my Uncle Jeff just over the time I have lived in Colorado. I have seen him go through so many different and challenging things the last couple years and he is just an amazing man and so laid back and no matter what he has always supported my happiness, whether it was the right decision or not and that means the world to me. Even when I was going through phases of boyfriends he was always okay with whoever I brought over to the house (or at least it seemed he was okay with it). He always told me, "as long as your happy, that's all that matters." The first time he told me that, I still remember to this day, and it meant the world to me. I couldn't be more grateful for him to be in my life. I wish I could talk with him more and see him. I wish I would have had my eyes opened and not had certain words from my childhood in the back of my head and that we could have began a close relationship while I lived there. But I am still so happy we have one now.

My relationship with my Dad is great! When I first decided to call him and tell him he had a daughter I was so afraid of what might happen, but he never had a second guess or hated me or anything. He took all the news with such a great attitude and willingness. I wish that I could see him every day or every week or anything but every other year! I am so grateful to have him in my life and although I can't see him as much as I want, I think about him every day and am so lucky to have him be a part of my life.

Over the years the relationship with my grandma has changed so much, although she can be a little "crazy" sometimes I can't help but love her. Her life has not always been perfect and her decisions may not have always been the best but she owns that and she lives her life with such a great attitude these days. I have been working on a lot in therapy and I think one of the things I realized is that my grandma has always been more like a mother to me, not that my mother isn't, but we have just always had a different connection. The one that I wish sometimes my mother and I had. The day my grandma leaves us will be one of the hardest days I will ever have I think.

As far as my cousins go, I am close with each one of them individually and I wish I could be there to support them and help them in whatever they need in life. Unfortunately I can't be there and help with everything they want or I want, but I am so proud of them. They have all become such wonderful young women and although they still have so many great years ahead of them...they really are great. I feel like they are my sisters sometimes and I wish we were closer.

I am not sure what spurred this but I feel it is important that I express in any way I can how I feel about things because I think in writing is the only time I can be me. I sometimes feel I can't be soft, romantic or emotional. People expect me to be hard, sarcastic and "Amber" so in writing I can be who I want whether people are reading it or not.

This week...

This week has been a very long week that started with my weekend ending one of my classes. I finished up the last weekend of my Social and Cultural Diversity class over the weekend and couldn't be happier it was done. Not only for it meaning that I am one step closer to the end, but also because I was so amazed at many things. I was amazed at the different views people had, especially when some of them never had any life experience in those areas. Some of the stories were so interesting because I was able to learn about other peoples backgrounds and family dynamics. However, sometimes I forget how the number of the age doesn't matter, it is the mind of the person that matters and how old they may act. Anyway, I am glad that the class is over and I am grateful for the things I learned and that it was one more class down.

On Monday I had a therapy session after work and it is just so nice to be able to talk about things. Even if there isn't a major problem or objective for that one hour, it is nice to be able to speak and not feel like your being judged for who you are and what you are saying. It is a time that I am allowed to be me and have someone understand that. I loved it. Also, for the first time I didn't focus on the one thing that has been occupying my time in therapy. I think I am finally learning to let go and can now work on other things. I love therapy and I wish that more people were open to it and didn't think it was just for "crazy" people.

Wednesday might have been one of the best days of our week! Our dog trainer from BarkBusters came and she was great. I loved it. I learned so much and really received some great education on why my dog has his behavior issues and what we need to do to help them. I won't go into the details because it is very long, but we are doing a lot of new techniques and training in our day to day lives. Things are going to be difficult but we are going to get through it. If we saw a change in Apollo after only 2 1/2 hours, imagine what he will be like in 3 weeks! I took a walk with him this morning and it was the best walk I have ever had in the year that we have had him. He didn't pull the leash, he didn't cut me off, for once we were walking together, instead of him walking me.

Today I had one of my internship interviews in Parker with a woman named Amy. She runs her own private practice and she works with children and teens as well as families. She has such an amazing journey that led her to where she is and I can only hope that my journey will lead me on something as great as she had. I look forward to interning with her and the children. I remember thinking I was NEVER going to work with children and now I think that is what I want to do the most! It is crazy. Like Amy said today, "Never say never" because you will never know where life will lead you. I think I will be starting with her in October if I can begin to wrap my mind around this internship information and get my butt in gear.

Tomorrow will be an interesting day as well, I have to take Apollo to the vet. He needs shots and a regular check up and definitely a nail trim. I hope our training comes in handy and that he is a well-behaved boy at his checkup.

I just want to try and keep everyone updated on things since I don't get the chance to talk and see everyone all the time. So I know this stuff is boring, sorry. I hope everyone is doing well and enjoying the days of summer!